When it was her turn, the woman, who said she was from a British Muslim family of Arab origin, knelt down to speak so that we were at eye level. How do I get over the fear that God will hate me if I have sex before marriage? I hear this a lot. My email inbox is jammed with messages from women who, like me, are of Middle Eastern and Muslim descent. Countless articles have been written on the sexual frustration of men in the Middle East — from the jihadi supposedly drawn to armed militancy by the promise of virgins in the afterlife to ordinary Arab men unable to afford marriage. I am not a cleric, and I am not here to argue over what religion says about sex.
‘I’m a Muslim woman who loves sex. If that surprises you, you don’t understand Islam’
What Muslim women want in the bedroom - and why a halal sex manual is a good thing
Welcome to a new series where we ask the question: how do people from different religions have sex? This series is based on the official teachings of the religion, not what individuals might choose to do. As Muslim and Metro. Extramarital sex is a big no-no, but within marriage sex is considered to be positive and important. Emphasis is placed on the importance of foreplay. Muslims are forbidden to act like animals, and sex without foreplay is considered to be acting like an animal, therefore foreplay is extremely important.
How do Muslims have sex?
A handbook for Muslim women seeking satisfying love lives, the book starts with the basics—lessons on kissing, sending dirty texts, and the importance of foreplay. After that come chapters on sex positions, shower sex, bondage, and masochism. The Muslimah Sex Manual , independently published in mid-July, has been variously described as groundbreaking and a welcome step. It busts the myth, parading as an Islamic belief, that a pure Muslim cannot be dirty in bed, while giving candid advice. Embedded in it is the message that Muslim women should enjoy a fulfilling sex life.
Sexual equality is something women are becoming increasingly empowered to talk about — and demand. But pervasive stereotypes around women of different faiths still hold strong. Compounding this problem is the taboos around sex still exist culturally, which can make it harder for young women to talk about their sexuality and desire. Poet Amani Saeed addresses identity and sex in her book Split.